People like to ask me about weight loss with the how or why it’s not happening for them. I always ask about their food intake, habits, exercise intensity and very often I get their answer paired with a “George Burns”. This is what I call that random rare exception to the rule that has become their rule. They give me an example of someone with similar bad habits but without their current weight or health issue. Since we are the fit over 40 crowd I do not have to tell you who George Burns is. But what I am talking about is that rare person who can partake of bad health habits and live a long healthy life, even living to the ripe old age of 100, like George Burns. Mr. Burns was a heavy cigar smoker but he was very active too. He exercised daily for most of his life until very close to the end. I do not know his food habits but if you wish to take up smoking 10-15 cigars a day, as Mr. Burns admittedly did, that is your choice. There will always be that person who can eat pizza and beer and not gain weight. That person who eats sugar in all their meals and doesn’t get cavities or gain a ton of weight. Who can smoke like George Burns and never get lung cancer. They are rare and lucky individuals. But they are not the norm.

So if you compare yourself to that one random person who can start a fitness program and one month later have drop 2 pant sizes, you just set yourself up for misery. There will always be those out there who can achieve great things with what seems to be less work or effort. Or they enjoy unhealthy habits without the visible negative side the rest of us experience if we do it. So know that your goals have to be reached with you in mind. Your health needs, your problems, your injuries, your limitation, etc. You many need more cardio than your friend, your cheats may hit you harder, you may need more sleep. It’s OK.

Make your goals about you and what you need. You will be so much happier in the end.